5 Reasons Why I Don’t Have It All Together

Sometimes, on the outside, it may seem that I have it all together.   I share quotes and tips and advice that may give the impression that I’ve got it all figured out.

Don’t get me wrong, I am proud of what I share here. 

I believe in everything that I write to you.

But, I never intended for this blog to just boast about the positive.  I intended for it to show both the good and bad of marriage and life. It is my intention to learn from the experiences I have and to share what I have learned with you.

Let me tell you right now,  I do not have it all together. 

Most days I feel that I do. But sometimes I am hit with a day or a series of days, that knock me to the ground and remind me that I still have so much to learn.

Such has been the story of the last few weeks.

Here are 5 reasons why I don’t have it all together.

1. Three weeks ago I spent a week in heaven with my sweetie in Cancun.  It was the best week of my life.

I should have it all together, right?  Wrong!

The second I returned to reality I fell into a mini depression.  I’m not exaggerating here.  I was sad and emotional and desperately missing the sand and the sun and  sharing every second with my husband.  Coming back to reality was quite an adjustment.  It took about 5 days to come out of my funk.

2. Sometimes, I don’t practice what I preach.  I have learned a lot about how to argue the right way with my husband.  I have shared some of that with you.  But, every now and then everything I learned flies right out the window.

On the drive back from the airport, after our trip to Cancun, Husband and I got in an argument.  It spun out of control before I could get a grip.  Not only was I upset about the argument, but I was devastated that the couple that just spent the most amazing week together was arguing the second we hit home turf. 

I will admit to you that I did not handle this argument well.  I overacted and stomped out of the house like a child and, on top of that, went to bed angry and unable unwilling to resolve anything.  This argument went on for two days.  Nearly unheard of in our relationship.

3. I have annoying health issues that show up far too frequently. 

I spent most of last week sitting on the couch, binge watching 2 seasons of Parenthood and suffering from migraines.  I even missed apple picking with my kids, because I was so sick.

Let me tell you, frequently being in pain can take it’s toll on your relationships and your overall mental well being.  It sucks to tell my daughter that I have a headache and to hear her respond, “Again?”

4. I still suffer from insecurities and, every now and then, let what the scale says determine how I feel about myself that day

5. I swim in guilt far too often.  I feel guilty about everything!

There are so many other reasons, but these are the ones that came to mind today.

I don’t have it all together.  I admit that to you!

Sometimes I wonder why a woman who doesn’t have it all together has the right to shell out marriage tips and advice to you.  I mean really!  Who do I think I am?

But, as soon as I start to go down that road I remind myself this, nobody has it all together all of the time.

No matter how put together they seem on the outside, on the inside we are all human.

What I have learned, mostly from listening to the candor and honesty of my Facebook followers, is that we are all humans sharing similar experiences.

We are each experiencing this life one day at a time and trying to do our best. 

We love, we cry, we dream.

We are not all that different, you and me.

The power of the human race is our ability to share our experiences with one another and, on a good day, learn from those experiences.

That is why I am here.  That is why I write to you.

It is simply to share my experiences with you. And I hope that just as I have learned so much from my amazing readers, that you are able to take away something that you read here and apply it to better your relationships.

No,  I don’t have it all together.

But really, who does? 

And that’s ok, isn’t it?

Tammy

Married and Naked